Hawa and I -- I wasn't brave enough to hang upside down! |
While we were outside, she kept running up to one of her friends, ironically also named Hawa, and wanted to play on the slides and run races with her. They seemed to be enjoying running around outside together. Plus my mentee Hawa was getting help from her friend Hawa on how to climb up on top of the monkey bars. Her friend was very willing to show her exactly what the best way to flip upside down on the bars was, as well as the easiest way to climb up the bars. I was reminded of a statement from Vaughn's book while watching the two Hawa's help each other. "Friendship in the Western world seems to serve the purposes of enhancing self-esteem and fulfilling individual psychological needs such as the development of self-identity and enhancement of feelings about self-worth whereas in other cultures, friendship is more about the socialization of cooperative and compliant behavior with others" (Vaughn p.113). I think their friendship is probably about developing self-identity, and that is because from what I can tell, both girls (or at least my mentee) seem to be fairly Westernized and so it makes sense that they would develop more Western-like friendships.
Hawa waiting at the top for her friend so they can go down the slide! |
Watching Hawa run around with her friends reminded me a lot of my elementary school days. I loved being out on the playground with my friends, running from the monkey bars to the swings to the slides, always trying to make sure we had time to play on everything. Looking at both my experience and Hawa's experience I would say that a statement made it Vaughn's book is definitely true: "The relationship of friendship is found across virtually all cultures" (Vaughn p.112). Even if friendships are formed for different reasons, they are still formed.
I moved before starting my fourth grade year. I made some friends fairly quickly when I moved here to Ohio, and even though I didn't realize it at the time, there were some reasons that I formed those friendships. They are probably the same reasons Hawa made friends when she moved to the United States. As stated in Vaughn's book, "Friendship seems to serve the purpose of socialization and enculturation within society in terms of learning about culturally appropriate negotiation, reciprocity, cooperation, and interpersonal sensitivity" (Vaughn p.112). I know that by watching my friends, I learned what was and wasn't acceptable at my new school. Hawa most likely did the same thing when she first came to AMIS.
My brother, Kevin, and I dressed up for Halloween. |
Hawa has been such an interesting girl to get to know. I am really glad I have gotten to know her over the last few weeks and hope that our paths somehow cross in the future. I hope that I have helped her in some small way, because I know she has taught me way more than I ever thought I could learn from a fourth grader.
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